Not feeling Find-A-Grave too much

these days.

While I still love walking cemeteries, adding photos and information, I am just finding all the disagreements and the complaints and basic bitching of people in the forums there to just be too much.

And the big problem is the different sides of findagrave — those that follow the true meaning of findagrave (a grave registration site) and those that want to be able to not only do grave registration but also use it for building a family tree. Now using it for a family tree really doesn’t work because if you know that your GGG-Grandfather died in Finland in 1782 but you don’t have the location of the burial, then you would have to make it a Burial Unknown (BU) – which goes against the true meaning – grave registration.

So then what can start out as an innocent post in the forums, because crazy because of the BU positions of people.

The last was that someone wanted to add people as friends on the Main Site (where memorials are posted) and put a link to their name. Well, along came the Non-BU people and complained about the fact that he had a few BUs. Then of course, the ones that think a few BUs is fine, defended him and it now has gone on for days.

I am not a big forum person, I post when I have something that I think will help or information that I have about the subject, but normally I am what people call a Lurker. In fact, the 2 months that I didn’t post after my stroke in 2009, no one really even knew I wasn’t there.

There is another thing with findagrave that has been a disappoint for me is the photo requests. I was so excited when they came to Canada. I thought finally, I can really help people on the site, but it just seems to have become a feeding ground for people to come, request a photo, not add anything to the memorial or site and then just take the photo and post it on ancestry or other places.

My reason for not wanting to do the photos for ancestry are simple: Findagrave is a free site – no charges, while ancestry charges people. And people there do not seem to think that you need to add a source for your information. But if I take a photo for you in 2013 and the headstone is perfect but then you manage to visit or someone else does and the headstone is damaged, you will have a time frame as to when it happened. Or if there is no headstone and there should have been one, according to Great-Aunt J – then you can look into it.

But photos, information, etc without sources is just family lore – you really don’t know what is true.

So, the decision for me is — do I keep adding to findagrave; do I stop doing photo requests; stay out of the forums.
I guess only time will tell – when the weather gets good for going out and walking about.

4 thoughts on “Not feeling Find-A-Grave too much

  1. What about adding a small watermark on your photos that lists your site and the photo date? That way if the photo shows up elsewhere at least there’s a credit on the photo to your site and a date for people curious about when the photo was taken.

    As for forums, I rarely post in any of them anymore. Years ago I spent a lot of time helping with free customizations on an Open Source site and honestly – the amount of bitching after getting everything you wanted for FREE was amazing. I’d rather spend the time on things I like doing or helping people I know appreciate the assistance (they know how to find me). So save yourself the trouble – stay away from negative forums/people!

  2. All of the reasons you listed are why I left the forums. I’ve only lurked a couple of times and my blood pressure skyrocketed! I concentrate on photo requests and posting the small, rural cemeteries in my area.

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