Gladys Marion Compton Rutledge

was my Grandma. I like to say that I got my love of Coronation Street from her as she was English.

Her Story

On June 1, 1903, Gladys Marion Compton was born to Charles Compton, a cabinet maker and Susannah Winter, a home maker, in the town of Ripon, Yorkshire, England. She was their 5th child – having 3 older brothers and 1 sister. She was christened in St. Mary’s Church.

What could have been the first of many changes in her life, her father left England and landed in Halifax, Nova Scotia on April 13, 1913. Gladys was not even 10 years old yet. And it was not until July 3, 1914 that she arrived on the Empress of Britain with her brothers, Charles and Harold. She would have to wait 2 years to be reunited with her Mother, who arrived with her sister-in-law and nephew 2 years later on June 24th, 1916.

The family settled into a little house at 496 Ashdale, Toronto. I believe this is my Grandmother and her Mom (my Great-Grandmother) in the backyard of the house.

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Sadly, her life changed when on November 26th, 1916, the family received word that her older brother, Harold had been Killed in Action. They barely had time to recover from that when only a few months later, on April 4, 1917, her other brother, Charles had also been Killed in Action. The family learned of Charles death, when a reporter called the house for a reaction to loosing 2 sons. How hard it must have been knowing that her only other brother, Percy was also still in the War fighting for England. But then on her 16th birthday – June 3, 1919, her oldest and only surviving brother, Percy arrived in Canada from England. The family settled down and life continued on.

I have to wonder if my Grandmother ever got to meet with her Aunt Lizzie Compton, who had moved to Canada and lived in Toronto as well. She is the older half-sister of Charles and I had no mention of her before I was contacted by her Great-Granddaughter a few years ago.

Sometime in late 1919, she met a young man named Gordon Elliott Rutledge. And although I have not yet been able to confirm a date, they married sometime in 1920/21. Here is what I believe to be her getting ready to get married, with her sister, Mary

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and a photo of the young couple:

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Together, they had 2 children — Verna (in 1923) and Bob (in 1925). Here is a photo of my Auntie Verna and Uncle Bob and Grandpa.

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It was some time after that they packed up and with her parents, her sister & family and I believe her brother, they moved to Burnaby, BC.

It was here that they settle down and had, my Father and my Uncle Doug.

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At one point, I know that she had a major flash back in her life, when her oldest son, Bob joined the Air Force. I know that probably terrified her, but she supported her son as you can see the pride in her face in this picture of her and my Uncle Bob

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But life continued on, her children married and made her a Grandma many times over. I think to her family was very important. As I was just a little over 4 years old when she passed, so I don’t have very many memories of her,I do know that my sister spent time with her and has some wonderful memories. But I do have this:

Me & My Grandma

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And while I know that some will find this strange, I find great comfort in going up to Ocean View, sitting down and having a talk with her, it brings me peace. She is buried close to her Mother and her brother Percy, so I know she is not alone.

And you know, the love for a Mother never fades as my Dad still has this picture beside his bed:

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To photograph or not . . .

When I do a photo request for findagrave if there was no headstone, I would in the past, post a photo of the area with a flower marking the area.

But lately it seems that some people do want this and others don’t. It is hard to figure out what to do. I think that is is nice to see where the person is buried even if there is no headstone for them.

This is what I was doing:

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It shows where the family is and that there is no headstone. I thought it was helpful and most that I have done like that, have appreciated it. There was one person that I had gotten about 10 requests for in Mountain View Cemetery, Vancouver — I think 2 out of the 10 had headstones, his email message to me — “Thanks for nothing and wasting my time.” What?????

And now people are complaining about the quality of some of the photos – not showing enough, not close enough, too close, doesn’t show the area around the headstone, etc. I just don’t get it.

I had been for years searching for my Great-Great Grandparents, who where buried in a small town in Manitoba. Well, there was finally someone that was in that area. The photos are a close up of the inscription only. But do I care?? Hell, no. I know that they have a headstone, I have where they are buried. They are remembered by me now. And that is all that I really need.

So, the question I have is:

Is it better to have no photo or a photo that isn’t perfect in everyone’s eyes.